We can mold, shape and change our life through our thoughts. Our thoughts shape everything we experience and shape the way we react to any experience. We need to understand that our thoughts are important in shaping our present and future. With power over our thoughts, we have power over anything in our life and this is sometimes something hard to grasp. This is because we constantly like to blame other people for our actions or their actions, when really, it is all through our experience and our thoughts. When you have control over your thoughts, you are in a vulnerable state which is why some people choose to not shape their thoughts, however, no matter what, your thoughts are always there. By shifting your thoughts to positive ones, you can bet your experience will be positive.
Our happiness depends on a few factors:
-10% the circumstance you are in
-40% your thoughts
Your experience in the moment is based on 40% of your happiness. This means that almost 50% of your experience can be changed JUST THROUGH the change of your thoughts. You can also rewire your genealogy and through your thoughts your circumstances CAN change, so you don’t just have a 40% chance for happiness, it can get to 100%. But to start, you begin with molding your 40% of thoughts and the rest will solve itself.
How to shift your thoughts:
Marci Shimoff, the author of Happy for No Reason states that our negative thoughts are like velcro. When our negative thoughts come, we must feel them and acknowledge them and then let them go. If we hold on to them or choose to ignore them, then nothing will be solved. We cling to our negative emotions but when you choose to overcome them, endless possibilities will come to the surface.
Taken from page 83 in Happy For No Reason, Shimoff stated that we have 60,000 thoughts per day
-60,000 thoughts per day
-1 thought a second
-95% are the same thoughts you had yesterday
-80% are negative
-Over 45K negative thoughts
This clearly show how much we as humans live in the past and don’t live in the present moment because we are constantly thinking of thoughts we have the day before and constantly having negative thoughts. However, through some extra effort, this can be rewired.
In the book, Shimoff shows a method to shift your thoughts called “The Work”. This exercise is a series of questions to allow you to get in touch with your feelings and your beliefs and to allow to to release your thoughts.
(There are many ways to shift your thoughts and this is just one method)
Ask yourself these questions about a specific Belief/Thought:
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely believe it’s true?
- How do you react when you believe that thought? What happens?
- What would you be without that thought?
This is a method to allow you to release your thoughts or belief and realize it may have had a negative impact on you so you can realize it shouldn’t matter to believe in it. Other methods to shift our thoughts is to:
- Express gratitude daily
- Do something you love to do to distract your mind from the negative mind
- Meditation, yoga, chanting, exercise to release toxins, relieve stress, help your negative thoughts
- Do what makes you happy - it can be anything from cooking to organizing to learning etc