How To Change Your Negative Thoughts


"It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed”.  ~ I am not limited by my past thinking, I choose my thoughts with ease. I constantly have new insights and ways of looking at my world. I am willing to change and grow. - Louise Hay 

It’s true, a thought is just a thought and thats’ it. Sometimes we feed into our thoughts and let them take over, when we should be listening to our heart.

Thoughts tend to put you down, have you doubt yourself and make you feel discouraged. We need to understand that our thoughts are just thoughts, and we need to just observe them rather then let them take over. 

Your thoughts limit you and with this limitation, hold you back from achieving success or giving you the courage to follow your dreams. In order to not be controlled by your mind, you need to first understand that your thoughts are not who you are, they are just what’s inside your head.

Secondly, you need to start to observe your thoughts and not be so controlled by them. For example, if you are walking down the street and you start annotating a negative thought pattern, or judging someone walking by, just observe it, acknowledge it and let it go. If you let this negative belief and constraint control you, it will just be the start of a negative thought pattern. You know, the  pattern that brings you down into a dark black hole of just negative thoughts. 

Beliefs are just your understanding and thoughts on a certain belief. A belief is just a thought you are constantly thinking, it can be changed, thoughts and beliefs are not set in stone. If you have a negative thought, if you have a doubtful thought, know it can be changed. 

For example, let's say a negative thought is being taken over about your job. You are doubting your ability to succeed because your thoughts are telling you you're not not good enough because a new employee just got hired and you feel they're doing much better than you. First of all, you should not let these thoughts affect you and you should not be doubting. You were hired in the first place because you know what you're doing. You need to stay strong, keep going, keep working and keep growing.

So what can you do about your thoughts? How can you change your negative thoughts and your negative patterns to positives patterns?

Wake up with gratitude - Just by thinking of a few things you're grateful for at the start of the day can completely alter your day, trust me, try it! 

Meditation! There is a lot of other posts about this as well. Stay tuned for a more in depth blog post on how I personally like to meditate and some techniques with that. Here are some links for reference.   

Release your resistance and doubt - Another blog post was written on this last Feeling Good Friday with lots of tips and exercises. You can view it here. 

Become aware of your inner thoughts and dialogue and know they are just your thoughts and nothing more. You have control over you. Once you understand this, and once you just observe your thoughts, it's huge. Hard at first and it takes practice, but you can do it! And you should try because once you understand this, you are on your way to unlocking your highest power! 

Be happy with what is. Don't indulge in what you don't have and don't feel sad about it. Feel happy that you're alive and well, that you just aced your final, or that you just got a promotion. There is always at least one thing we can appreciate and be happy about in our current situation. Once you find that one, find another, then it will be like a domino affect. The same as it is with your negative thoughts. 

Understand that you can do anything, be anything you want in your life and you can't let anyone doubt you or put you down. Ultimately, it's the THOUGHTS you have towards those doubts by people that make you feel like you need to give up and give in to society social constructions. Don't. 

Take a moment away from your phone. This is a key exercise to help overcome negative thought patterns and something I try to work on the daily. We don't realize it, but we are subconsciously embedding negative thoughts by what we're reading, seeing, comparing through social media. Put your phone down, take a walk, talk with a loved one or take a nap, even. 

Write it out! Make a clear cut list of the negative thoughts on your mind. Don't be scared about it either, once it's all on paper, you can look at it, realize it's just a thought and move onto new thoughts. For example, write your negative thoughts: I'm not pretty, I hate my job, I feel lonely. Literally, anything you want, as detailed or as vague as you want. Number one helpful tip of this exercise is for you to really stand back and see how strong your negative thoughts are and two, you can get it all out and let it go. 

There are many other techniques to change negative thoughts but it all starts with you! By these simple techniques, I guarantee, they will help even in the slightest to diminish your negative thoughts, help you overcome your doubts by not paying big attention to your negative thoughts, so you can then find your purpose and achieve it. 

Do you have any tips to change negative thoughts? I'd love to hear them! Comment below!